I can't hear you without my glasses 👓

Published almost 2 years ago • 2 min read

WHAT ELSE AM I DOING WRONG?

I once had a friend reload my dishwasher for me. 💀

She put all the glasses between the upper rack spokes and the dishes in an entirely different direction than I had done for the entirety of my existence (or, at least the parts where I was lucky enough to have a dishwasher).

I still have not fully processed what she did with bowls.

Now: once my ego recovered, I was able to see the vast improvement she had made in the efficacy and efficiency of this slightly time consuming and oft-repeated task.

I literally changed the way I had been doing something for decades because one person took 5 minutes to show me something different.

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Yes, the headline here was WHAT ELSE AM I DOING WRONG because—depending on the day—I'm either convinced I will forever be submerged in my own ineptitude OR I'm frantically excited by the thought of something else cracking wide open for me and changing my life. Or at least changing a habit or two in a positive way.

Like how I now understand that if I don't have my glasses on, I can't hear you because I can't read your lips. 🤯

I've been thinking about the dishwasher a lot lately.

I've been thinking about it in the context of my family:

What if I've just been trying to shove us into some dumb sitcom unit and that's just not who we are?

Maybe if I look at us differently (because we are different) and stop trying to conform to the articles, pinstagrams, and montessori smorgasbord we can create the kind of family I'd always wanted but just didn't know how to see.

I've been thinking about it in the context of social media:

What if I didn't feel like I had to engage with platforms that make me feel unseen, less-than, and perpetually outside the glass?

Maybe if I look at this differently and get back to what started everything for me: my love of connecting, sharing, and uplifting (my kind of 🔮) then the pressure and obligation subsides and leaves me with more time to do things that matter. Even if that means posting on social media!

And I am always and forever thinking about it in the context of money:

What if this big chip on my shoulder is really just envy, insecurity, desperation, and the long gangling arms of colonialism, capitalism, and white supremacy?

Yeah. Correct. Need to keep looking at that differently. Looking at myself differently.

SPEAKING OF MONEY HONEY, GUESS WHAT?

I'm not kidding about aaaaaaallllllways thinking about money.

I don't write things that aren't true in the moment.

(My fiction professor told me to try something else; "you should try to be more like yourself, you're funny!"

Um, excuse me, sir. I'm over here writing the great American novel. Pffffft.)

Well, not anymore.

Now I'm writing and talking about money.

Because it is important and it is on your mind too, I guarantee it.

And it is sometimes funny but that is not guaranteed.

Regardless, this is a long way (cheers to reading to the end of things!) of saying:

I am hosting a FREE WORKSHOP on June 28th!

How To Value Yourself (and ask for Money!)

This will be a Creative Mornings virtual Field Trip and I truly would love to have you in the audience.

You can register right here and get all the details.

Until then...

Let Dina load your dishwasher. ❤️

Jelly is a bi-monthly love letter about: Creativity 🎨 Money 💰 Business 💎 + living in this world with 💊🔮⏳✚

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